Small Steps Still Count

 

I don't know how many times I have gone to bed with a sense of enthusiasm and anticipation for the following day. I mean, the night before, everything feels possible - right?

Workout or yoga clothes are laid out - check.

Lunch is ready - check.

Bags are packed - check.

Clothes are organised for the next day - check.

I have a huge sense of positivity and optimism for the day ahead and the success I will have. 

And then... morning arrives.

Whatever side of the bed I climb out of, I suddenly realise I do not actually want to be the hyper-productive version of myself I imagined the night before.

The problem with making plans at night is that the person making them is often eight or twelve hours removed from the person who has to live them.

In that time, a lot can change. Our energy changes. Our mood changes. Life happens.

And then there is sleep itself — that strange reset button that can leave us waking up as an entirely different version of ourselves by morning.

So the ambitious plans made with such certainty the night before often collide with the harsher reality of the morning light.

Not because we are lazy.
Not because we lack discipline.
But because we are human.

[And that is without taking into account sleep chronotypes - more on that in another post, but if you haven't already, I suggest reading The Power of When by Dr. Michael Breus.]

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What actually creates change?

The issue with plans is that they are more often than not expectations - and expectations and plans are two very different beasts. Expectations are aspirational and tend not to be rooted in reality; whereas plans are firm and grounded, based on real actions.

Following through on plans often relies on expecting huge amounts of change to happen overnight. 

The mornings where we promise ourselves we will suddenly become the kind of person who wakes up early, exercises, gets to work ahead of schedule, drinks enough water, eats perfectly balanced meals, and finally “gets our life together” are usually built on one quiet expectation:

That tomorrow will somehow produce a completely different version of us.

Usually, those expectations appear after a day when we feel frustrated with ourselves. We did not achieve what we wanted to achieve, so we try to compensate by building an even more ambitious version of tomorrow. Sleep is powerful in many ways - but it doesn't have the power to change everything overnight. 

And so, such dramatic reinventions rarely last. It may happen once or even twice, but I am willing to bet that, like me, the energy for such change fades out maybe two or three days in. 

Instead, real change is usually built through tiny, repeatable actions.

Not overnight transformations.
Not punishing fresh starts.
Not trying to become an entirely new person by morning.

Just small steps, repeated consistently. Small steps still count. 

So what are small steps?

I like the phrase small steps, but you can also call them many other things. Micro wins are often used in the wellness world. A micro win is something small, achievable, intentional, which moves you forward toward the life you want to build.

It does not need to be dramatic to matter. 

• If you regularly wake up with headaches and decide to drink water first thing in the morning, that is a micro win. It is a small but meaningful act of self-support.
• If you spend most of the day sitting at a desk, taking five minutes to stretch is a micro win.
• If you have been struggling to find time to read, reading one page of a book still counts.
• Most books are fewer than 365 pages long. Reading one page a day is a micro win - and by the end of the year you will have finished a book, possibly several.

That may not feel impressive in a single moment, but all of these actions move you forward.

And they should not be dismissed simply because they are small.

Micro wins are not “doing less badly”.
They are not failures because they are not bigger.

They are deliberate, sustainable actions that support the life you are trying to build — in ways that can actually fit into your real, everyday life.

How can we actually approach big change through small steps?

The short and long of small steps is that breaking things down into smaller steps makes them more achievable. Smaller actions feel less overwhelming, create less internal resistance, and are far easier to repeat consistently.

You would find it far easier, for example, to demolish a house brick by brick, than to run at the house throwing all your weight at it hoping to take it down. 

Consistency, more often than intensity, is what actually creates lasting change.

That can be difficult to accept because we are often drawn toward dramatic effort. We want the intense workout, the complete life overhaul, the perfectly productive week that fixes everything all at once.

But human beings generally do not work that way sustainably.

A series of smaller workouts across a week will usually support your health more effectively than one huge “blowout” session followed by days of exhaustion and recovery. 

The same applies across almost every area of life.

One giant push often throws everything else off balance. Sleep suffers. Energy drops. Recovery becomes harder. Motivation disappears. What began as an attempt to improve our wellbeing can quickly become another source of stress.

Tiny actions work differently.

They build gradually.
They support momentum.
They create evidence that we are capable of showing up for ourselves.

And psychologically, micro wins matter far more than we often give them credit for.

Every small action reinforces a message:

“I am someone who keeps going.”
“I am someone who cares for myself.”
“I am someone capable of change.”

Each small win creates another layer of momentum, quietly building in the background.

Creating micro wins in everyday life

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Micro wins can exist almost anywhere in your daily routine.

I have already talked about reading one page of a book, drinking a glass of water in the morning, and stretching for five minutes during the day.

But there are countless other examples too.

If your sleep has been suffering, perhaps your micro win is going to bed five minutes earlier each night. Over time, those five minutes can compound into better rest, better recovery, and more consistent sleep patterns.

If you want to start journaling but the idea feels overwhelming, write one sentence. That is it - one sentence still counts.

[Personally, I love journaling. I find it incredibly helpful for processing thoughts and emotions. But journaling does not need to mean sitting with a beautiful notebook for an hour every morning. It could simply mean writing one honest sentence on a post-it note beside your bed. It could even live in your phone notes if that is what works for you right now.]

The goal is not perfection.
The goal is a small step. 

Micro wins can also support emotional wellbeing.

If you are feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or overstimulated, your micro win might simply be pausing long enough to take one deep breath before responding, or it might mean stepping back and naming what you are feeling instead of immediately reacting to it.

Sometimes, micro wins are even smaller than we would like to admit.

If you are struggling mentally, brushing your teeth might be the win.
Washing your face might be the win.
Opening the curtains might be the win.

And those things still count.

The secret: keep them small

This is the part most people struggle with.

We escalate too quickly.

I do this myself constantly. If I have a productive morning, suddenly I convince myself I am going to completely reinvent my life by lunchtime. I start adding more tasks, more goals, more expectations. And, eventually, I collapse under my own self-imposed unrealistic expectations.

Micro wins only work when they stay manageable.

The goal is not to jump from reading one page a day to suddenly reading an entire book every evening.

Instead, growth should happen gradually.

One page becomes two.
Two pages become ten minutes.
Ten minutes eventually becomes part of your normal routine.

Slowly, sustainably, naturally.

That gradual integration is what creates lasting change.

The power is in repeatability, not intensity.

Micro wins are not productivity checklists

This part matters too.

Micro wins are not supposed to become another optimisation system where you cram twenty “healthy habits” into a single day.

The point is not to reach the end of the evening with a perfectly completed checklist.

The point is to support yourself consistently in moving toward the life you want to build.

There is a difference between self-support and self-pressure.

And many of us accidentally turn wellness into another form of performance.

Sometimes the biggest win is recognising that forcing yourself harder is not actually what you need.

Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is pause.

The compounding effect

One of the most powerful things about micro wins is that they compound over time.

Small actions repeated consistently eventually become lifestyle shifts.

Not because of one dramatic breakthrough moment, but because you quietly built trust with yourself over weeks, months, and years.

You do not need to transform your entire life overnight.

Small actions matter.
Quiet progress matters.
Tiny beginnings still count.

Sometimes the smallest step forward is still the thing that changes everything.

Reflection

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So with that in mind, ask yourself:

• What feels overwhelming right now?
• What would the smallest possible step look like?
• What would feel supportive instead of forceful?
• What is one thing you can do today that future-you would appreciate?

Start there - let it be small.

Small steps still count.